Awareness

A skilled communicator is aware of the way he/she acts or expresses themselves. This takes practice to be mindful of our thoughts and deeds and the consequences that may result. Too often I have observed disputants, who are initially well intentioned, default to their defensive postures and say or do things which have unintended negative consequences. It may be worthwhile to give a brief pause before you let someone know what you really think, though there should be a balance, less the conversation be too contrived. On the other hand, I suppose this is context driven. If you are wooing your significant other, you better cut back on the thinking and say what you are feeling, right pronto.